Everyone has been through a situation in their life where they did something nice for someone and received something in return that cannot be explained in words. We analyzed stories from Internet users about situations where their good intentions led to something bad. From there, we did five types of good deeds that people often regret.
We will inform you about the good deeds that you should be careful of unless you want to turn your life into a nightmare.
Giving Away Things For Free
We are not trying to make your house become a place where there are many useless things. Helping other people is good. However, when you post an ad about something that is ready to give away, you should be ready to see a lot of crazy requirements and complaints.
For example, this man posted an ad about giving away his huge fish tank. He said he couldn’t help with transportation because after hurting his back he was not allowed to lift heavy things. Despite this, some people wanted the tank to be taken home to another city, and others wanted a fish as a gift.
The man tried to be polite, but in the end, he lost his temper and decided to sell the tank for a low price. Soon he found a buyer: a father wanted to give the tank to his daughter. He just came to pick it up and a few weeks later sent photos of the full tank.
As you will understand by now, it is safer not to give your stuff away to strangers on the internet, but to try to sell it, maybe even for a very low price. Of course, there can be problems too – people will definitely try to negotiate the price by trying to look poorer than they actually are.
There are also other options. You can take what you don’t need to a charity or, if local laws and regulations allow, you can simply drop it off outside your building or home where someone can pick it up. For example, in some countries, people do this with furniture.
Loving Those Who Aren’t Ready To Be In A Serious Relationship
People who say they are not ready for a serious relationship are not lying, they are just not saying that they are not ready to be in a relationship with you. You may have noticed that some people who did not want a family before, have it right after breaking up with someone. And your previous relationship could last for years.
Unconditional love is great, but only if you both have it. Don’t waste time and energy trying to make someone happy if you realize that that person is with you just because you are waiting for a better option. As painful as it may be, there is no use sitting around waiting to be loved.
Never ask anyone to start a serious relationship with you. If that person loves you, they will do it anyway. Remember that you deserve much more than you “think”.
Helping People Who Don’t Want Help
Unfortunately, many people have been through situations where their family or friends are in trouble but refuse to admit it, even though it is destroying their lives.
What should you do in a situation like this? Of course, no one wants to leave their friends and family, but you have to understand that whatever you do, it can be useless.
No matter how hard you try, if a person doesn’t want your help, they are wasting your time. It’s hard to accept, especially if you’re trying to get someone out of a bad situation, but all you can do here is wait for the person to change their mind and accept your help before it’s too late.
Lending Money To Those Who Are Used To Living At The Expense Of Others
If a person is in a really desperate situation, you should try to help them. But there is a certain type of person who gets into trouble quite often and does not seem like they’re trying to solve their problems, waiting for the help of their friends and family. And if you lend money to that person, it is very likely that you will not get it back.
It is easy to recognize these people. Try asking for your money back and you will be hated. They will try to make you feel like a heartless monster.
Therefore, if someone borrows money from you, you should borrow an amount that you are comfortable with without getting back. And of course, don’t help anyone if that puts you in danger.
Trying To Please Everyone
There is nothing wrong with trying to please someone close to you. However, there is a possibility that you will regret it. First, you can’t always please everyone. And secondly, if you try to please someone, you can lose yourself in the process.
Be aware that someone is trying to change your behavior, lifestyle, or appearance. Most likely, this person is a manipulator who will make you “perfect” (in addition, they will be unhappy even if you become his “ideal” person). Don’t follow what these people say, because they are probably too selfish.
If you don’t have a healthy level of selfishness in situations related to your health, time, life goals, and hobbies, you won’t be able to give anything to other people.
If you have healthy self-esteem and don’t allow other people to cross your limits, you may be able to live in harmony with them. True selfishness is being able to make other people do what you want just to achieve your own goals.
Have you ever been in situations where you did something good but received something bad in return? Let us know in the comment section below!