There is a fine line between caring and controlling. And sometimes it can be difficult to distinguish one from the other. But since your partner’s affectionate behavior makes you feel guilty, scared, or inferior, you should interpret this as a sign that they might have control over you.
We always has your back. That is why we explore this topic more deeply and can identify situations in which a couple could cross the line between control and caring.
Compromises Become One-sided Sacrifices
Compromise is about finding your partner halfway, without neglecting your needs and feelings, to meet the demands of your partner. A caring partner will always try to find a common language with you, but the controller will set strict ultimatums without regard to your feelings.
The Standards You’ve Set To Make Things Fair Become Unfair
Every relationship has standards or rules that each partner follows. However, when a partner begins to ignore these standards but still expects you to adhere to them, it means that they are becoming controlling.
You’re “Walking On Eggshells” Around Them
Being with a loving partner means that you will feel free to talk openly about your needs and feelings with that person. But if you are afraid to speak up for yourself because they might attack rather than resonate with you, that means they want to take control of the relationship.
A controlling partner will always be right and will not apologize or take responsibility for their actions.
They Make You Do Things You Don’t Like “for Your Own Good.”
For example, if your partner wants you to eat more vegetables or encourages you to exercise to improve your posture and ease your back pain, your partner is concerned about your well-being.
But if your partner forces you to eat healthy foods and exercise, even if you don’t just want to improve your appearance, start neglecting your needs in order to satisfy theirs.
The Things You Share With Them Start To Violate Your Personal Boundaries
It’s natural for your partner to ask you to share some personal things about yourself with them. However, if your partner pressures you to say something that you are not comfortable sharing, it means that they do not care how you feel.
Instead, they want to know more about you and your weaknesses so they can take control of you and one day use your weaknesses against you.
They Are Thwarting Your Professional Or Educational Goals Because They Don’t Want Your Feelings To Get Hurt
If you have high ambitions, whether they are professional or educational, a caring partner who thinks you are not ready to pursue them will motivate you to improve your skills to achieve your goals.
A controlling partner, on the other hand, will not give you the support you need. They will make you doubt yourself, saying that they are afraid that you will try because you will be disappointed if you don’t succeed.
Have you ever had a controlling relationship? Do you know any other signs of a controlling partner?