Sometimes we are stuck in troubled relationships where we feel anxious, insecure, and mentally drained.
Whether it’s a blood relationship like with your parents or siblings, or a created relationship like with friends and associates, you need to find a way out.
It is impossible to be with someone when you know that you fear their presence. But escaping is not always so easy.
If it’s an irksome partner, you could easily say it to their face. Simply tell them what problem personalities they have and how they are causing you pain and ask them to leave.
The same goes for friends, neighbors, and co-workers. Try to make them understand that their habits/manners/conversations make you uncomfortable. Stay away from these people.
But what if that troubled person is someone you can’t imagine hurting? What if you respect them so much that you can’t blatantly tell them to keep their distance?
We were born of these people. We share their DNA. Our ties with them are the closest, our affiliations the greatest.
But that doesn’t mean these people are perfect.
They are not primitive angels descended from paradise.
Our closest relatives may also have troublesome personalities that make us feel exceptionally stressed. They can make physical comments, act against our will, emotionally blackmail us, and even deliberately irritate us.
Should we persevere just out of respect?
No. Do not compromise your mental health. For these people, the best solution is to avoid it. Whenever they cross your boundaries, ignore them completely.
Live with them as if you or they were invisible. Find them when you need to, but don’t make it mandatory to see them often. If you are personally attacked, do not respond.
It is rare, but not uncommon, to have disconcerting parents and siblings. But if you find yourself in such situations, act as if you are blind and deaf.