From an early age, most of us have heard that we must find the right person. However, this has been shown to be a bit wrong according to one study. We now understand why we must shift our focus from finding “the one” to actually working in a relationship.

We have discovered important key points about why we should try to stay with our current partners and stop looking for a prince on a white horse.

You Both Change In A Relationship

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We all have different personalities that can even seem strange to others. But in a relationship, these personalities no longer matter. This is because together we create characteristics based on the relationship that applies to both.

In fact, this will explain why fighting for your partner is a better option than wandering around alone, looking for the right person.

You understand how happy the relationship makes your partner and you accept their commitment. You feel lucky to be with them and you know how to deal with all your conflicts.

Different Personalities Make The Relationship More Interesting

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The difference in our characteristics as individuals is what makes each relationship exciting, dynamic, and tense. Opposites attract, such as extroverts and introverts, people of the night and morning, planners and impulsive, etc.

For many couples, this can create a challenge, but they are still considered important aspects of a successful relationship.

Some couples find similar activities and different ways to spend time together and bond. But even if they don’t find a common interest, they can still be together and use each other’s strengths to maintain their emotional intimacy.

Staying In A Relationship Means You Will Build Even More Trust And Love

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When you have someone by your side, someone you can trust to support you at all times, you will have the motivation to achieve whatever goal you set for yourself. As each year of your relationship passes, you continue to surpass your previous accomplishments.

As a result, your love will grow stronger and you will be able to bring out the best in your partner and your partner from you. Your romance will create happiness, warmth, and hope.

Even when things don’t go as planned, it will be much easier to turn things around. With an understanding partner, not only will your motivation be high, but more opportunities will open up, you will have more fun, and you can even earn more money.

This cannot be achieved if you interrupt your relationship in between and go on a journey to find the right partner. You will end up needing to build trust, love, and security again.

Healthy Fighting Leads To Better Communication

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Little fights are no reason to leave everything behind just to find the right one that won’t fight you. Every couple fights and if you fight from time to time, this shouldn’t be a problem. This is because a healthy relationship goes through this all the time.

The key is to understand how a little fight can be positive for both of you. This can give you a chance to explain how you feel, your intimacy will grow stronger, and you will still learn more about your partner.

But remember that fighting has its limits, it should not lead to toxic behavior or psychological or physical abuse.

You Already Know All The Good And Bad About Your Partner

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Starting a new relationship means that you should start to learn your partner’s personality and try to tolerate things that you don’t like very much, after all, we all have negative characteristics.

But staying in a relationship means that you already know how the two of you work together. Overcoming problems and having someone to hold by the hand when you feel bad cannot be done with a partner you just met.

You have a romance, and intimacy, and an openness that you will need to build for a long time with someone new.

Do you and your loved one have different personalities? Would you rather fight for your relationship or go looking for another partner? Do you have any tips on how to handle a fight in a healthier way?

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