Every relationship has a level of toxicity, according to psychotherapist Ginnie Love Thompson. While it is normal to have ups and downs in a relationship, it is also wise to know when it is time to let go. But often leaving is easier said than done
With that in mind, we decided to delve into the psychology behind some of the reasons why people remain in toxic and harmful relationships that have long since ended.
Being Scared Of Loneliness
According to one study, the fear of being alone can cause people to remain in destructive relationships, for the simple reason that it is “better” to have an imperfect partner than to be single.
Society can sometimes make people think that being single or “alone” is a negative thing, but in reality, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Having Low Self-esteem
Studies also suggest that people with low self-esteem tend to have unhealthy relationships. After experiencing abuse and toxic behavior for so long, it can be easy for people to fall into the trap of believing that they are to blame for their partners’ toxic behavior.
Low self-esteem can also cause people to question their own worth and what they bring to the relationship.
Feeling Personally Responsible For Their Partner And Their Actions
After an unpleasant situation or confrontation, an abuser sometimes changes the situation and makes their partner feel guilty or as if they are somehow guilty, even though they aren’t. This is commonly known as gaslighting.
This behavior usually develops gradually, making it difficult for a person to realize what is happening. Feeling anxious, confused, and unable to trust yourself and your actions are signs of gaslighting.
Believing That Things Might Change
Many people in toxic relationships sometimes stay because they love their partner and believe that things will one day get better or that the relationship can be restored.
They may also assume that their partner’s unhealthy behavior is the result of difficult circumstances, or that they may somehow change the relationship by being a better partner themselves.
But in reality, the behavior usually only gets worse over time and people are increasingly damaged.
Being Afraid Of Rejection
Another reason is rejection – they remain in an unhealthy relationship because they are afraid of being rejected in the future, so they latch onto their current partner.
People who are afraid of rejection may find it difficult to express themselves, express their thoughts, and defend themselves.
Have you or someone you know experienced any of these feelings? How did you handle it?