It’s not uncommon to feel monotonous in your interactions with your partner. The solution is to change the setting (in the offline world) and the themes (in the online world), not the partner.
Change the Setting:
Instead of hanging out in the same places, try a new location. For example, walk along a river, plan a picnic, take a cooking class, sign up for a rock climbing session, plan an impromptu trip, and ask your friends to plan a trip for you that you don’t know about. anything. near; The list is endless.
The idea is to change the physical configuration of your interactions. Make it more fun and adventurous (it works like magic!).
Change the Topics:
Find new things to talk about. For example, ask yourself questions and ask about your childhood, your best memories, values, etc.
Check the book Eight Dates by John Gottman and look up those dates. It’s one of the best ways to add some spice to your conversations, get to know each other better, and deepen your relationship.
Many apps offer exciting games and quizzes that the two of you can do together. I haven’t tried them, so I can’t specifically suggest the best ones, but a quick Google search will give you a list of them.
Change the Routine:
Instead of watching movies after you get home from the office every day, go outside. Do something different from your usual routine. Surprise your partner. Choose a hobby that you would both like to try and incorporate into your routine.
stay crazy Start a project, write a book, write a song for each other, etc. You can be as creative as you want.
The idea is to explore activities that you haven’t tried yet. Think of an activity that you both feel you would never enjoy and do it. You’ll never know until you try.
Create some Distance:
Distance creates longing. Plan a trip with your friends that doesn’t include your significant other, go alone, and pick up hobbies and projects you’ve always wanted to pursue.
This distance will serve two purposes:
- revive the desire to see each other and be together
- have more recent experiences to talk to your partner
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