The demand for the services of psychotherapists continues to grow each year. Unfortunately, not all people are lucky enough to be born with parents who resemble characters in a book about a happy family. Sometimes mothers and fathers criticize and make fun of their children, ignore them, or compare them with other siblings.
We have carefully studied the literature on psychology and have discovered that many phrases we hear around us reveal people whose childhood was not so simple.
That is why simple actions of your colleagues, such as taking sick leave when they are not feeling well, can be perceived by them as something extraordinary.
Parents who are very overprotective like to keep their children on a shorter leash. They don’t care that their children have grown up. In addition, this control is often hidden behind the mask of concern.
A son or daughter keeps hearing: “It’s for your own good!” and “I do it because I love you a lot.” But according to psychotherapists, the “translation” of these phrases is actually: “I am so afraid to lose control over you that I am ready to make you unhappy.”
Toxic parents’ habit of competing with their children creates kids who may downplay their accomplishments or see themselves as unattractive. For example, a mother may tease their children by comparing their appearance to her own.
Children who have been constantly taught to please their parents at all costs find it difficult to set personal boundaries.
In addition, they often call their parents “best friends” and even start taking care of them from a young age. The thing is, your own family takes a backseat at the same time.
People with difficult childhoods often suffer from a lack of confidence and blame themselves for everything. They even manage to apologize for mistakes made by someone else.
And all this because in childhood they were blamed on any occasion— from the “C” on their test to their mother’s bad mood.
Most children of toxic parents grow up not knowing what love is. It seems to them that they have to constantly sacrifice themselves and give up their own desires.
Children who used to be scolded for any initiative turn into adults who feel powerless in this “frightening and troubled world”. Eventually, they find it difficult to become independent from their parents. This situation can occur even if a child lives in a separate apartment.
Have you noticed similar reactions in yourself? Do you think they are echoes of your childhood?