Our bodies are more honest than our words. Any evasion can be recognized if you pay close attention. We do not recommend jumping to conclusions, because everyone is different. And that means that if you are going to analyze someone’s behavior, you have to start with a little preparation.
We want to give you some advice before sharing this knowledge with you.
The most important thing to remember when evaluating someone’s body language is that everyone has their own basic behavior. And don’t forget the context of the situation. So the folded hands, which we could consider a sign of insecurity, could only indicate that a person is cold. After analyzing the whole situation, you can draw the correct conclusions about whether a person is lying, worried, or just tired.
How to Understand Body Language and Facial Expressions
The way a person shakes hands can help us make the first impression of them. Profiler talks about 3 types of handshakes:
- Humble — the palm facing up:
- Dominating — the palm facing down;
- Neutral — the hands of both people are in the same position.
Watch a new person lend you a hand and what they do. If a person has the dominant type of handshake, they are highly unlikely to take another person’s opinion into account and will probably expect you to agree.
A humble or neutral handshake is more preferable if you are discussing difficult topics or need to convince someone of something.
Pay attention to the behavior of some politicians: when they want to take advantage of an argument, they add an unusual gesture (pat people on the shoulder or pull their hands). As a result, a person may lose the confidence they had before the meeting. Remember this so as not to be manipulated.
Notice how a person smiles. After a quick overview, it will be easy for you to distinguish between a fake smile and a real smile because different muscle groups are responsible for them:
Sincere smile: risorius muscles are used. They pull at the corners of the lips, there are wrinkles around the eyes; the skin under the eyebrows may go down a bit;
Fake smile: the so-called laughter muscles are used, which separate the corners of the lips from each other; the upper part of the face does not move.
When you see that a person has a sincere smile, you can be sure that they will feel comfortable with you.
Watch The Emblematic Gestures
We all use popular gestures from time to time and almost everyone understands what they mean. They are called iconic gestures. So, notice how the person uses them in communication:
The gestures should correspond with what the person is talking about;
Lies can be discovered with iconic errors: situations in which gestures do not match the words a person says or their facial expressions. In this case, your body language is what you should believe. It is much more difficult to lie in body language.
Please note: if you see a person showing a “thumbs up” with pursed lips, this is not a good sign. The person may not be honest with you. And a similar situation is when a person says “yes” and shrugs their shoulders.
Watch Their Hands
Closed hand positions almost always indicate anxiety or bad mood:
- Clenched fists;
- Hands together.
The same applies to a situation where a person is holding a small object with both hands. These gestures can be used in different variations and are sometimes hidden. Popular people often demonstrate them.
In any case, when a person keeps their hands together, it means that it will be very difficult to come to terms with them. More than that, tension can be due to insincerity that always requires emotional effort. Remember: the lower a person is holding their hands, the worse the situation.
Tip: If you notice that a person is uncomfortable, try to help them relax. Often they just need to stop gesturing so their body and mind can relax.
Look At Their Palms
The palm of the hand on the forearm is a sign that the person is trying to contain negative emotions. This is a subconscious effort to calm and stabilize your mood.
Pay attention to the thumbs: in a “closed position” you cannot see them or they are placed parallel to the ground. However, if you notice that one hand is wrapped around the arm and the thumb is up, you are dealing with a confident person who rarely loses self-control.
Hands down, palms together: it means that the person is stressed.
Remember how safe you felt when you were a child, walking with your mother, holding her hand. Children grow, but their reflections do not disappear.
Find a solution: make the person more comfortable in the situation. Try to change the subject, suggest that they sit down if they are standing. The most important thing is to make them forget about the gesture.
Hands-on knees, moving – it means it’s time to end the conversation.
Experts call this behavior “willingness to sit.” People start to move to avoid the conversation and feel very uncomfortable at the time.
Tip: try changing the topic of your discussion. If you start talking about something more pleasant, the person can relax and it will be easier to continue the conversation.
What other tricks do you know that allow you to know if a person is lying? Can you use this knowledge during a conversation?
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