When something goes wrong in our relationships, we tend to blame our partner. But it takes two to build them, and it is impossible that only half is to blame for everything.
We thinks you should be on the lookout for these 6 signs that something is not right in your relationship. So who is destroying you, yeah …
Ways You Are Unintentionally Ruining Your Relationship
You’re Addicted To Gadgets
If you spend most of your free time on your smartphone, it can be addictive and damaging to your relationship, as scientists at the University of Arizona have pointed out.
Try switching to something else, like reading a book or making plans. Use special applications to keep track of your time on the web (such as Rescue Time).
You’re Unable To Set Priorities
If you have a very busy schedule that doesn’t include a personal life, just make it important on your priority list. You can also use special planning apps like Any.do (iOS, Android).
There is also the 2/2/2 method that will help save the romance: date your loved one once every 2 weeks, go somewhere on a weekend every 2 months, and go on vacation together every 2 years.
You Don’t Show Support
A simple “thank you” seems so trivial that many forget to say it. However, if your loved one does something for you, don’t take it for granted. Everyone needs a kind word, so thank your partner for the simple things and do it regularly.
You Talk Formally
People who love talk to each other openly and sincerely. Share your emotions and details of your day and listen to each other.
Think about non-trivial issues. Instead of “How was your day?” try “What was the most interesting part of today?” or “What made you laugh today?”
If something about your partner is bothering you, say it uncensored using “me”-messages. It’s not “Don’t you dare say that!” It’s “Your words upset me.”
You Get Angry At Trifles
Don’t try to remake the loved one. Its quirky features are what you love. It is better to let them see the results of their actions for themselves.
If your husband spreads the socks all over the place, tell him that they only go to the laundry in one specific place. When he run out of socks, no words are needed.
You’re Unable To Negotiate
Focus on solving problems together. Try to discuss the problem before it reaches the boiling point. When you have an important conversation, touch your partner to make them feel comfortable. And remember the rule of a problem, a conversation.
During a fight, leave the room, even if only for half a minute. When he calms down a bit, the conversation will become more productive.
