In 1960, about 10% of adults had never married. In 2012, that number grew to 20%. However, even today, single people are often seen as unsuccessful or antisocial fanatics. But being alone is often a choice and an act of taking care of yourself.
We want to explain why some people choose to be single and why it is as good as having a partner.
We Don’t Want To Feel Bad About Ourselves
In a society that still values family and marriage, singles are often frowned upon. Since childhood, we have learned that everyone expects us to grow up, marry, and have children.
People who don’t want these things to be stigmatized and can feel a lot of pressure from family members and even strangers.
Many think that something is wrong with you if you are single. Therefore, people try not to “make mistakes” and often prefer an abusive relationship to loneliness because it is more socially acceptable.
However, it is much better for a person to get out of an abusive relationship and live happily alone, rather than stay in a toxic environment just because of someone else’s opinion.
There’s A Difference Between Being Alone And Being Lonely.
While some may call a single person “lonely,” this is often not the case. Loneliness is a state that a person does not necessarily choose and remains socially excluded.
For them, the company itself is not enough. A lonely person seeks intimacy and feels the need for it, but cannot find it.
A person who alone chooses to be like that, and can be perfectly fine if he does not share their life with someone. They prefer to enjoy their own company, have hobbies and interests, and also have friends.
One study showed that lonely people were dissatisfied with their life, unlike people who chose to be alone.
Being Alone Contributes To Your Growth As A Human Being
Psychologists say that it is very important to learn to be in harmony with yourself. Without having a healthy relationship with yourself in the first place, it is not possible to have a healthy relationship with others.
By embracing loneliness, singles are more open to growth and development than married people. This is because the latter tend to trust their partner, who can begin to define them to some extent.
For some people, being single is a way of living life to the fullest. People who are comfortable alone tend to trust themselves and the inner voice that guides them.
This gives them a lot of freedom and the opportunity to think about themselves and their needs, rather than thinking about someone else’s needs. Also, they can make better decisions because they have no outside influence.
There Are Benefits To Living A Solitary Life
- Single people are less stressed.
- Single people value meaningful work. They usually have a job that they are passionate about because they trusted themselves and their heart when they chose it.
They are more productive. They have fewer distractions and are therefore better able to focus on their tasks. Also, time alone helps them connect with imagination and be creative.
Single people aren’t stuck in one place, so they have more opportunities to travel and explore. They are free to choose where they want to live or where to vacation.
One study found that single people are more considerate of their friends and family than married people. This is because they have learned to fully understand each other and it also helps them understand each other’s needs and actions.
People who live alone are more self-sufficient. And that leads them to have fewer negative emotions because they get to know each other.
Are you a lone wolf or a family member?