New relationships are always exciting, intriguing, and passionate. We just have fun with our new partners and try to get to know them better without analyzing each other’s behavior.
However, despite your enthusiasm for your new love, it is crucial to pay attention to what is happening during the honeymoon phase, as it can lay a good foundation for a lasting relationship.
We made a list of 6 mistakes early in your relationship that may come back to bother you in the future.
Signs That Your Partner Will Break Your Heart
You’re Putting Your Personal Life On Hold
At the beginning of a relationship, we want to spend every waking moment with our new partner: we stop communicating with our old friends and abandon our family so that we can always be available for some mutual activities when our partner calls us or sends us a message of the text.
Why it’s bad: You can start out simply by giving up a few friends, but then move on to changing jobs, moving to another country, or losing touch with your loved ones. In that case, your partner may lose interest in you because you have simply become a shadow of your old self.
How to fix it: Remember that healthy relationships always involve some degree of independence, so try to divide your free time according to the 50-30-20 rule: no more than 50% with your partner, 30% with your friends and family, and 20% alone.
You’re Tolerating Bad Behavior
Disrespecting your personal space, making insensitive jokes, threatening to break up with you, giving suggestions on how to improve your appearance, cursing, being aggressive, always being late, being glued to the phone in meetings, ignoring your rejections. .. Many people ignore these red flags because some other aspects of their relationship seem to be good.
Why It’s Bad: If you ignore these warning signs of a toxic future relationship for too long, you may one day find that you’ve invested a lot of your time and energy in someone who has treated you badly for years.
How to fix it: Don’t be too picky, just state your expectations in a polite way, like, “I can’t stand someone always being late” or “I wish our dates were just you and me.” If that doesn’t work, run away immediately and never look back.
You’re Bringing Up Your Past Experience
It is better to leave some things in the past. This includes your exes, comparing your new partner to them, and your own old habits tied to your past relationships, regardless of how things turned out with them.
Why it’s bad: Mentioning your ex too often can be very irritating to your partner. They can start comparing themselves to their previous lovers and it will ruin their relationship. Also, if you continually judge your partner in front of those who have preceded you, it could be a sign that you are setting incredibly high standards.
How to fix it: Your past relationships are important because they have shaped who you are today and can help you understand what qualities you value in another person. But you must remember the golden rule: “Never talk about your ex-boyfriends until you feel safe in your current relationship.”
You’re Not Talking To Each Other
“If my girlfriend or boyfriend really loved me, they would know what I need and they would give it to me.” Many people believe that their partners can really read their minds. Unfortunately, this is not true, and this is one of the most serious mistakes people make in a relationship.
Why it’s bad: Similar to avoiding conflict, lack of communication can lead to feelings of confusion and misunderstandings. And any unresolved negative feelings will turn to resentment over time.
How to fix it: It may be difficult and uncomfortable at first to talk about your wishes and complaints, but it is essential that you do so. To make a relationship last, be honest with your partner about what you are looking for.
Don’t forget to listen to their version too; the ideal situation is when you can find a perfect balance between speaking and listening.
You’re Idealizing Your Partner
We are all human and sometimes we make mistakes. However, some people forget about this during the honeymoon period because they still wear their pink glasses and consider their partners to be purely perfect creatures. But they always pay it later.
Why It’s Bad: Putting your partner on a pedestal will only lead to disappointment in the future when you see that your partner is just a human being, just like you.
How to fix it: Avoid having excessively high expectations of your loved ones. Instead, pay attention to how they treat other people: your friends, family, waiters at restaurants, etc. Your new love is probably wearing the same rose-tinted glasses as you are when they’re with you, so this will give you an idea of who they really are.
You’re Pretending To Be Someone Else
We always want to look better than we are, so we tend to keep our not-so-good qualities a secret for as long as possible, but we know it can’t last forever. We also think that all our little lies won’t affect our relationship, so we alter the truth a bit just to please our partner or avoid conflict. And then we start to wonder what we did wrong.
Why it’s bad: Keeping secrets from your loved ones and lying to them from the start can only lead to bigger lies. If your new relationship is based on lies, you are likely to fall apart because your connection was based on lies.
How to fix it: The keys to a healthy relationship are honesty, mutual trust, respect, and understanding. It’s not that you need to tell the other person every minute of your life, but you shouldn’t intentionally hide something important from them.
It is easy to understand if it is a secret that you keep or something really insignificant; If you feel guilty about not talking about it, it is a secret that you better share.
How do you usually deal with problems that arise in your relationship? Share your experience with us in the comments!