We all want to live in peace with everyone else. And we often have to compromise while trying to be nice and polite. But often being good actually backfires, because some people see it as a weakness and try to use us for their own ends.
There is a fine line between being polite and not respecting yourself, and we all need to be able not to cross it. We have talked about this topic many times and finally, we want to show what happens to people who don’t believe in themselves.
They Skimp On Themselves To Buy Something For Someone Else
We often think that when we don’t buy something we want, we can prove something to other people. For example, we believe that a husband will love it if his wife doesn’t buy something she wants or needs to make room for his needs.
But in fact, people end up thinking that this is exactly how it should be. And if we can’t spend money or time on ourselves, other people will think we don’t deserve it.
They don’t love their bodies.They Don’t Love Their Bodies
In the modern world, it can be difficult to love your imperfect body: all the magazine covers and web pages that we are exposed to have images of perfect models without wrinkles or extra weight. So, of course, many women have an inferiority complex because of that.
But beauty is very subjective. Some people will think you look like a goddess, some will not. So in the end, it doesn’t matter if you have wrinkles, you will find someone who loves you for who you are.
They Don’t Express Their Opinions
Sometimes we do things simply because we don’t know how to say no. We drive another mile, waste our time and fuel, arrive late for work, all so we don’t have to say the horrible word “no.”
Either we are afraid of offending other people or we don’t want to appear rude or selfish. And many people use our weaknesses against us.
They Don’t Trust Themselves And Ask For Advice All The Time
Insecurity can sometimes be helpful: it keeps us safe from unnecessary risks and dangerous consequences. But being overly self-critical and dissatisfied with yourself can lead to depression.
People who do not believe in themselves and seek advice are often the victims of someone else’s manipulations. This only makes them feel more uncomfortable.
They Try Not To Say No
Many people can’t say no because they want other people’s approval. The reason is that they did not receive enough love from their parents. They had to work hard to earn it.
So when you know that love must be earned, you try to be good to everyone as an adult. This is very convenient for other people but very difficult to please.
They Tolerate Obvious Disrespect
Many of us have had to deal with disrespect, but we all react in different ways. People with the so-called victim-mentality are willing to put up with a lot and other people just say something like “I think you like it.”
But in reality, these people simply don’t have the power to find a way out of an abusive relationship. Unfortunately, there is always someone who will use that person.
Have you ever been through similar situations in your life? Tell us about them in the comment section below.