According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds each night. And while many of us believe the saying “couples who sleep apart break up,” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We believe that there are no right or wrong sleeping arrangements because for some, sleeping in different beds can be just as enjoyable as for others sharing the same bed with a partner.
A Poor Night’s Sleep Can Turn Lovers Into Fighters
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner who has restless sleeping behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep per night. And when one of the couples does not sleep well at night because of the other, it will probably result in a conflict between them the next day.
In fact, the study even confirmed that couples who often sleep poorly at night have more intense and frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting Your Partner Because You Can’t Get A Good Night’s Sleep Can Be Destructive To The Relationship
Snoring, complaining, and indulging in bed or blanket are just a few of the many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even different rooms.
Staying awake listening to your partner snoring while torturing yourself to sleep can increase anger, tension, and resentment towards your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate room can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each Partner Can Tailor Their Sleeping Conditions To Their Heart’s Content
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different rooms with her partner due to their opposite sleeping habits. “I am a night owl, he is an early riser. I need soft sounds to fall asleep and he likes silence. He likes hard mattresses, and I like soft, pillow-filled pillows.
And since I don’t like sunlight in the morning, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom, which has less light and has the second-largest bedroom that gets the sunrise he loves. “
The way you spend the night in your shared room with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, your marital satisfaction, and your physical and psychological health.
And when 2 people with different bedtime and preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, switching to suit your partner’s needs can hurt your relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different rooms with your partner means that the two of you will have a place to yourselves where you can relax after a tiring day.
That way, the two of you can get your needs met without standing on your toes and worrying about your partner waking up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even If You Don’t Remember Waking Up, Disturbed Sleep Can Have A Negative Impact On Your Overall Health
During the night, our brain goes through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (rapid eye movement sleep). But when you break the cycle by waking up during the night, it means your brain spends more time in light sleep and loses REM. And without enough REM, your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Sleep disruption can also have short- and long-term health consequences, such as hypertension, weight-related problems, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related problems.
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you think sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?