An analysis of divorce in the United States showed that almost half of couples split due to unrealistic expectations. Misunderstandings can arise due to the active work of hormones in the first period of relationships or, as psychologists say, in the period of chemistry.
This stage can make people blind and, only when it is over, will they realize that their partner is not as ideal as they thought.
We decided to dive into the psychology of the relationship and find out if there was any love left after the passion is gone.
Statistics Say Chemistry In A Relationship Isn’t About Love, It’s About Passion And Attraction
During the study, scientists asked more than 300 people to answer the question about what chemistry means to them in a relationship.
The results speak for themselves: only 9% of men and women associated this period with “love”.
Answers like “biological reactions” and “mutual desire” were given about 3 times as much.
You Don’t Know How You Really Feel About A Person
It turns out that we can divide love into three distinct stages: lust, attraction, and attachment, according to Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University.
The first phase, which we usually call “chemistry”, is nothing more than the work of estrogens and androgens, male and female hormones that are based on biological motivation for reproduction.
Afterward, It May Turn Out That The Expectations Of Both Partners Were Wrong
Only later, when the hormones calm down, will they discover what they really feel for each other. You can decide that your partner is not as perfect as it looked at first.
Perhaps your partner snores too loudly at night or does not always seem calm and relaxed. But that does not mean that you need to become demanding or that your partner will become worse.
You Can Keep The Passion Going For Longer
It is possible to maintain a strong passion in a relationship, even after the chemistry period. Try to act like it’s one of your first meetings.
Hold hands more often, focus on loving touch, and take time to be with your partner; it must be simple but effective.
What do you think is most important in a relationship: passion or mutual understanding and respect?
Preview photo credit Hot Summer Nights / Imperative Entertainment
