Science says that people are born unique when it comes to their ability to forgive. There are different brain structures for fast-moving humans and those who have a hard time letting go. Also, forgiving and forgetting are challenges for some of us, and we can tell you why.

We always want to promote mental health and self-love. That’s why we’ve created a list on how to put yourself first in times of emotional battles with loved ones.

It Raises Our Blood Pressure

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While it is necessary to stand up and forgive, it is inevitable that we overthink what just happened. Overthinking leads to stressful times and can lead to high blood pressure.

Our body produces more hormones every time we feel stressed. This is why our hearts beat faster, while our blood vessels narrow in the process.

It Triggers Bad Memories


Sometimes it is better to first set your boundaries before fully healing through forgiveness. It is highly recommended for people who have gone through extreme experiences that can put their lives and mental health at risk.

It Inspires Discomfort

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Forcing yourself to forgive and forget a painful event can make you think that what you feel deep down is wrong. It is most disabling and uncomfortable when the experience is traumatic and impossible to leave quickly.

It Impairs Social Skills

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Often frowned upon, getting angry when it comes to someone’s forgiveness is actually a good thing. In fact, it gives you control over the situation. But too much anger can cause minimal contact with friends and acquaintances over time.

It Invites Guilt

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Rumination is a habit of replaying our past mistakes in our heads. It’s an unhealthy coping behavior we often do when we blame ourselves for a misunderstanding.

In this case, thinking too much about forgiving or not forgiving a person can make us think too much about our doubts, increasing the chances of depression and anxiety.

Which of these moments have you experienced while mending a broken heart? Which of these do you highly recommend?

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