Psychological barriers, a negative mindset, and a narrow mind do not allow us to live a happy life. To break this vicious cycle, many people read classic, science fiction, and religious books.
A famous psychiatrist, Mikhail Efimovich Litvak, wrote a book where he describes the most common psychological barriers, in his opinion that doesn’t let us live happy and healthy lives.
We picked 6 of them. You can think about it while driving or when you have free time to let your mind roam.
6. Happiness Is Just A Side Effect Of A Properly Organized Life
Happiness, joy, and success, as psychiatrist Viktor Frankl said, are just side effects of a well-organized life. You have to do things that make you experience and achieve those feelings and states.
However, those whose goal is to reach these “side effects” will never reach them, as these things are not something you just get and have to keep.
5. When You Talk To A Person, Remember That They Also Have A High Opinion Of Themselves. Just Like You Do
Never forget that the person you are talking to is also a person. They also have their own views and their own reasons for having them.
Every person you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. You should always respect other people.
4. How Can Anyone Help You If You Are Not Doing Anything Yourself?
The words are impalpable. A person is always defined by their actions. No one will help you if you keep walking and telling people that you are going to write a book. Well seriously, how can anyone help you if you haven’t even started the process?
However, when you finally decide to write a book and take a copy to a publisher, you can always find people who are willing to help and support you.
Your work will be real, so you will have the opportunity to support it and not just with words.
3. Become Successful, And All Hard Feelings Will Disappear
Many grudges are formed inside due to dissatisfaction with oneself. Sometimes we hold a grudge against someone and think that the only person who can fix it is the one with whom we are angry.
However, this mechanism works differently. A Mikhail Litvak student once said: “My success has overcome my grudges.” This is absolutely true.
Start doing what you love and succeed at it. You won’t even notice the moment when all your grudges will disappear.
2. Do You Want To See Your Biggest Enemy? Look In The Mirror!
Many people fight other people’s demons, while they should fight their own. And the only real enemy we have is us. You cannot get out of this situation without breaking the barriers that prevent you from growing and developing.
Basically, we exist within very strict limits that society created with the education we receive as children. We take these rules for granted, we believe in them, but they consume a lot of energy.
All modern psychology looks for a way to combat them. Sometimes people even get psychotic trying to fight them. However, most of the time, we don’t even realize that we are fighting.
When you are finally ready to go face-to-face, this will be the last enemy you will encounter.
1. Look For The Right Path Instead Of The Straight Path. The Right Path May Not Always Be Straight
Let’s imagine you are on the 30th floor and you need to go down. The fastest way is through the window. However, this is likely to be the time when your journey ends.
The most sensible thing to do would be to look for an elevator, or at least the stairs, even if the building is dark and it is difficult to find something inside.
Also, you can imagine that a person who chooses the correct path rather than the correct one looks a lot like a fly that is trying to get through the window, although it is much faster to get through the next open door.
Do you agree with the psychiatrist? Was there something in his advice that made you reconsider your approach to happiness? Let us know in the comment section below!
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