If you’re in a relationship, you know that arguments are inevitable. No matter how much you love each other and care about each other, there will be times when your partner does something that makes you angry or upsets you.
But if you don’t learn how to stop fighting in a relationship, then eventually the fights get bigger and bigger until they destroy everything between both parties involved—and even if it doesn’t happen like this one time (it did), then at least one person is upset for all time! So here are some tips for stopping arguments before things go too far:
Try to look at things from your partner’s perspective.
When you’re fighting, it’s easy to see things from your own point of view and think, “I’m right,” or “They’re wrong.” But this doesn’t help the situation any. Instead, try to look at things from your partner’s perspective.
If you can see things from their point of view and figure out what they want and why they want it, then maybe you’ll be able to go along with their needs in a way that makes everyone happy.
Try to keep your emotions out of the argument.
When you’re arguing with your partner, it’s important to try and keep your emotions out of the argument. This means that when you get angry or upset with them, don’t let those emotions get carried over into the next day or week.
If you start thinking about what happened during an argument and how they made you feel, then chances are good that they’ll end up being upset as well!
When someone is mad at another person (or themselves), they may say things like “I’m sorry” or “I shouldn’t have done that.”
These phrases are great ways for both parties involved in an argument—but only if there aren’t any additional problems between both parties involved! If someone feels bad about themselves after speaking their mind at home while fighting with their significant other…well…then maybe we should talk about something else instead?”
Keep a calm tone and avoid yelling.
- Try not to yell.
- Yelling is a sign of anger, and it makes the other person feel attacked or threatened. This can make them feel like they are not being heard or respected, so try to avoid this at all costs!
Don’t try to win, because nobody ever wins in an argument.
If you get into an argument, it’s not about winning or losing. It’s about taking control of your relationship so that you can stop fighting.
When you argue, both of you are trying to prove something. In the case of a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, one person might feel like their partner isn’t listening enough and is therefore making them feel ignored;
while another might feel like their partner doesn’t understand them very well at all and should try harder to understand what’s going on with them (or perhaps even try talking about things in different ways).
The problem is that neither person has any right to be right when they’re arguing—they both have their own opinions, but if either side tries too hard for this one thing (or anything else) then they’ll end up hurting themselves more than anyone else ever could!
The only way out of this mess is by learning how each other thinks through conversation instead of arguing over who gets credit for saying what first.”
Avoid making an argument more personal than it actually is.
Avoid making an argument more personal than it actually is.
In a relationship, it’s tempting to use your partner’s past mistakes against them when arguing. For example: “You always forget about the kids when you go out with friends!” or “You never know when I need help around here.”
These statements might seem like they have merit and could justify your anger, but they usually don’t—and they can actually make things worse by triggering feelings of guilt and shame in your partner.
Don’t use words like “you always” or “you never.” Using phrases such as these makes it seem as if you’re accusing someone of being incapable of change; instead of pointing out what needs improvement in their behavior (which would be better), these phrases imply that there exists only one way for someone else to behave at all times (which isn’t true).
Don’t try to fight through text messages or emails, face-to-face conversations are much more productive.
Don’t try to fight through text messages or emails, face-to-face conversations are much more productive.
It’s easy to say things you don’t mean when you’re angry and it’s hard to be empathetic when you’re not looking someone in the eye.
Remember that timing is everything. Some fights are better left for later, but if it’s something important and can’t wait, try not to be too harsh about it.
Timing is everything. If you’re angry, wait until you’ve cooled off before talking about it again. If it’s something that can wait, then wait.
If a fight has to be had and cannot be avoided, try not to be too harsh about it.
Fight fair. Stay away from cheap shots and don’t use your partner’s past mistakes against them.
- Don’t bring up past mistakes unless it’s relevant to the current argument.
- Don’t bring up past mistakes that you have made yourself.
- Don’t bring up past mistakes that you are currently making.
- And finally, don’t bring up past mistakes that your partner has made either!
Conclusion
Remember that fighting is not the end of a relationship. It’s a part of it, but it shouldn’t define your relationship. The only thing that should be defined is how you can resolve this fight and move on from there.
